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Who should I choose?

I AM was seeing a girl called Anita for about 3 years. I loved her like crazy, I introduced her to every member of my family. We had the best times, travelling and partying.

But after about 3 years and 4 months she decided to go and be with her ex boy friend in another country. I was heart broken, I still wanted to see her, still loved her, I couldn't eat, drink, read, almost failed my BSc exams.

Anyway two months after, I started seeing another girl called Vicky. Vicky was the best thing that had happened to me since Anita.

We went out clubs, movies and had a really good time. When I was seeing Vicky, I still kept in touch with Anita. Anyway, after Anita moved to the U.S. I also moved to the U.S.

Vicky was heart broken, so she also moved to the U.S. I carried on seeing Vicky, but every time I speak with Anita, I told her that I was not seeing anybody.

It was not too long that Anita found out that her ex she came to the U.S to be with has been seeing someone else. Matter of fact she even found out that the girl is pregnant.

So I started seeing Anita again, while seeing Vicky every now and then. My feelings developed for Anita again, I started loving her just like before.

But this time I never trusted her. Sometimes when we are together, she doesn't answer her phone because it is her ex-boyfriend that's calling her.

Anyway, her ex-boyfriend proposed to her. Anita told him no, she said she does not want to marry him, because she is in love with me.

Now I live with Vicky, but Anita thinks that I live with my friend. So every weekend I go off to see Anita, while Vicky is lonely at home.

Right now I need to make a decision who I wants to be with, but I find it so hard to chose.

I think it is because, Anita is a lot more prety compared to Vicky, and I also have better sex with Anita.

But when it comes to personalities, and wife qualities, I will give Vicky 99 per cent and Anita 50 per cent.

Right now, I am confused, I think what I really want is Vicky with Anita's body.

Agony Aunt says:

I always say the same thing when asked about such things. When the passion runs out of a relationship who would rather be with?

Sex is alright but when the novelty wears off you need to have some stability. Which one will give you that? You need to think it through and then make a decision.

9:38am Tuesday 7th October 2003